Romantic couples with a large age gap often raise eyebrows. Studies have found partners with more than a ten-year gap in age experience social disapproval.
Way back, age was really one of those qualities people looked into before relating to someone. Lately, most of the things that made sense then are no longer making sense now. These days it seems we just give the heart what it wants whatever way it wants it. I mean people claim they should always follow their hearts regardless of the odds against it.
Does age even matter? Well, the truth of the matter is that in our African setting, its easy to turn heads when a man settles for a woman who is older than him. Love is an issue between two people. If two adults have decided to be together, there is not much we can do. However, we will look into age and how it can affect the relationship anyway.
Naturally, women grow faster than men. This is both physically and mentally. A girl of 18 and a boy of 18 when put together will prove to you that girls have a tendency of being more mature than the boys. If someone decides to date and be with a girl who is older than him, he must be really mature mentally and very focused.
I mean time is going to come and this girl’s age will reflect on the face. This is where the issue starts, some may sit back and start thinking about how they made a mistake to settle with this person, and yet they knew this would come. It calls for a lot of discipline in these kinds of relationships to stay loyal to your partner.
Even on the part of the girl, it’s always not easy submitting to someone younger than them. She has to be really good and mature about it otherwise the relationship will be heading nowhere. These problems can also be found in a relationship that the boy is older than the girl but it’s worse when its the other way round.
Definitely some relationships have managed to survive all the odds even when age would be a failing factor for them. The truth of the matter is love may never ask why or how. We are masters over our feelings and we should be.
If you think you are ready to go all the way in a relationship with a girl older than you then it’s well. But if both of you don’t have a certain degree of discipline, don’t start the fire.