After a breakup, is it right to remain in touch with your ex-partner? Has this question ever crossed your mind? Most times these are the things that we ignore and yet have such great impacts on us. If you’re still intensely having a conversation with your ex, do you think you will move on? We lie to ourselves too much, unfortunately.
Get me right, am not saying that they should be your enemy. However, when you have to heal, you have to be intentional about it. The truth of the matter is that you won’t move on when you retain an intense conversation with your ex-partner. First of all, this means you can meet up anytime you please. You will end up falling back in their arms without even realizing it.
It is honestly very risky to remain so close to your ex-partner. This especially at that time when you have just broken up because anything can happen. We have so many people bouncing back to their exes just because they kept a conversation going. This is especially for people who have broken up in terms that have nothing to do with their love but probably their surroundings.
A close relationship with your ex makes you vulnerable in every way. Of course, this only applies to those who truly want to move on. Understand that your mental health should come before anything. If it means you should block them for a while for you to have peace, go ahead. We must all agree by now that it is risky to remain in touch with exes, especially for our sake.
However in some cases where you have a kid/kids its impossible to do away with communication because there is a bond between you and the kids will always bring you back together and there is need for communication and support to the kids but its also important to note that you need to set limits to this communication if both of you have decided to move on.
If there is constant communication to you exes simply because of the child, this will affect your current relationship and this is likely to bring trust issues with your current partner on whether its all about your child or there is something fishy.
In this case your current partner has to know that its only about your child and nothing else and this is the point where the issue of honesty comes in, if you have not opened up about your previous relationships then it becomes a big problem, many people have tendencies of not telling their current partners about their past especially when it involves kids yet this makes things worse in the end, be honest from the very beginning especially about kids, if someone truly loves you, they will stay with you and if they don’t love you enough to stay after knowing every thing about you, then they were definitely not meant to be with you.
But if you have truly moved on from your previous relationships and its only a matter of taking responsibility for the kid then it also lies in your hands to let your current partner know that its only about the child and nothing else for them to be able to understand you and to trust you to avoid conflicts.